I find it interesting that your statement that "Jesus did not have a wife" is based on feeling that keeping ones mind "closed" to possible historical evidence is the best policy. It is akin to believing that "science" has no place in the forming of ones beliefs about various elements of humanity and the physical world. Kind of a "don't confuse me with the facts" position, which is very common in Christianity. In regards to the fragment, I'm not saying anything was proven, just that you simply don't want to know if it was proven to be credible, and conclude that it isn't on that basis, and don't want it discussed.
I know, by personal revelation of the Holy Spirit, that Jesus is who He claimed to be, and that mercy, or judgment, will happen as He said it will. Does that mean I should believe that we have full knowledge of all things? No, it means there are no advancements in scientific knowledge that could cause me to question His divinity, the existence of God, or eternal life (which science has not attempted to do). We do not have all knowledge of all things in this life, even through the Scriptures, as there are numerous gray areas that faithful believers disagree on. No one has God in their hip pocket. He has made knowledge sufficiently complex to ensure against that, and to require humility from His people.
You are saying that these scenarios caused people to "question" but you didn't say what they are questioning. That is the all-important element in this picture. I haven't followed the news about the fragment, because it doesn't have any relevance to me, or to the Christian church really, or to society in my opinion. For that reason, I am comfortable holding to the belief that, since the Church is the bride of Christ, there would be no place for a wife in His earthly life.
Questioning is good. It is humble and it is honest. God is perfectly entitled to throw a curve ball to people who believe they have the truths of God locked up, as so many people falsely believe. There is a vast difference between questioning the fundamental truths of His identity as Lord, and eternal salvation, and questioning things that are non-essential to these core tenets of the faith. Conversation is good. The fact that you do not want this to be a topic of conversation, doesn't establish that it is bad for people. It doesn't undermine who He is to the non-believer. There is no reason to shun it in that kind of context. Faith is either real or it isn't real. The fact that that could be revealed for someone through a suggestion such as this, isn't a problem.
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