When I say I struggled to get up this week, struggled to open my Bible, I want her to say, “You know what, sometimes I do too.” I don’t want a perfect woman who always says, “Well, you should have done this.” I want someone completely transparent who can say, “I didn’t either—life is messed up, I didn’t either.”
Tara, age 24
To successfully mentor the next generation, a mentor must take off her "good role model" mask and admit her failures--not just "generally"(Yes, I messed up in the past)--but specifically. We are not talking about full disclosure with all your dirty laundry hanging out. We’re talking about humility that allows us to admit we are not perfect. This requirement will challenge some of us to the core of our being. Just as younger women were raised in the self-esteem movement, older women were raised in the “Be a Good Role Model” movement and transparency just feels wrong. Our background leads us to believe our mistakes will lessen our influence or affect someone negatively.