Thank you so much for responding to my note. I've been keeping this experience mostly to myself as I realize people don't know what to say and probably mean well. Being able to write it down and tell someone else, albeit online, helped me to begin to let it go. It also reminded me not to overthink what I say to those who are grieving. Saying you're sorry and listening with an open heart will help more than all the platitudes and advice one can muster.