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Love is Kind

Well, it took me a few weeks, but "love is patient" really got into my life and changed me. So, I moved on to "love is kind" (1 Cor 13: 4).

Now, if you are sleep deprived from not only your own jet lag, but that of an infant, then said infant gets over jet lag, but still likes to get up once or twice a night to nurse, and your husband seems rested, and you just moved in with your parents from having your own place, and you don’t know how you’ll find jobs or insurance or functioning vehicles, can love be kind?

Well, it took me a few weeks, but "love is patient" really got into my life and changed me. So, I moved on to "love is kind" (1 Cor 13: 4).

Now, if you are sleep deprived from not only your own jet lag, but that of an infant, then said infant gets over jet lag, but still likes to get up once or twice a night to nurse, and your husband seems rested, and you just moved in with your parents from having your own place, and you don’t know how you’ll find jobs or insurance or functioning vehicles, can love be kind?

Kindness. It’s at this point in my life that I can’t even remember the definition. So, I checked Merriam-Webster and found  the words sympathathetic, helpful, and forbearing all in the definition. Wow, not snappish, crabby, and worn-out? And, in Strong’s concordance, I see “to show one’s self mild.” So, not showing one’s self as sinner, rude, and mean?

How can I find the kindness that God wants me to display? The only answer I’ve got is the same one that worked when I wanted to be more patient before: meditation. (Which for me wasn’t a nice calm sitting back and breathing, but rocking a baby at 3am while repeating “love is patient, love is patient, love is patient.”)

So, here I go again, muttering under my breath, “love is kind,” when all I want to do is say something unkind, something unhelpful, something unloving. The truth is (and I know it) that whatever else is going on in my life is no excuse to cause harm, to hurt, to sin. I often think that my circumstances are extraordinary and give me the right to lash out. No one else is so tired, so put upon, so sacrificial as I am, so I can be a little crabby if I want to be, right?

I’m not saying we don’t need to get rest (I do, and wonderfully, my husband has found ways to make space for me to get some). We do need to find space for ourselves, especially when we’re burned out, or we’ll live in the crabby space of life. However, whether we have it or not, we cannot use that as an excuse to lose the fact that love is kind. God is kind, and if anyone has an excuse not to be, it’s Him.

With that in mind, I’ll pray for you if you’ll pray for me. And, ignore me if you I look a little mad muttering under my breath "love is kind," it’s only to keep me from being mad.

Jamie Lath is a middle child that has no baby picture without her older sister in it. Even with only two siblings, she grew up with family everywhere because all her aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, and even second-cousins lived in her hometown. With forty people at her birthday parties (all relatives) and her sister in every picture, she knows a little about community, and it's everlastingness. This has brought most of her ministry focus into meeting people where they're at, listening closely (especially to those who feel voiceless and like no one is listening), and helping them find God's voice in the mix. Jamie graduated with a BA in Communication Studies from the University of North Texas. Following a year of teaching English in China, she returned to the states to attend Dallas Theological Seminary. She received a Th.M. with a focus on Media Arts. Her background in the arts (ballet, writing, and acting) has given her an understanding of how creative expressions can give people a safe place to begin exploring how to use their voice and how it can touch hearts to hear God’s voice. She also blogs at I just called to say "Olive Juice."

4 Comments

  • SonShine

    love is….
    Sweet Jamie…you are teaching us such wonderful lessons…so mutter away …enjoy each and every thought and lesson.
    Are you back in US?….

  • Helene Smith

    Meditation

    I am really enjoying this series on meditation.  As a mom of a couple young kids, I really sympathize. I've had a nursing baby and jet lag before!  And I have certainly need reminded to be kind!  Thanks