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    What is it like to be “Unseen”?

    Do you live your life wanting to be seen or unseen? Whether seated in an office maze of cubicles, standing behind a podium before a grand audience, or mopping up spilled milk and cereal for the third time today, we want to be acknowledged, understood, and liked.  Our current world of social media has not helped our helpless and desperate desire to be noticed. These days if we do not post a photo of our dinner out, our vacation, our birthday, our promotion, or our child’s new accomplishment, it’s as though it never happened. Additionally, we want our online friends to see, like, or love our posts. Only if the…

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    Comparison, Competition, and Contentment*

    Rehearsal dinners can be an awkward thing for a single person. Having married late in life, I have several such experiences under my belt. One evening in particular stands out as I walked into a beautiful room full of beautiful people and suddenly felt, well, less than beautiful.  I sat down in the lone single chair at a table full of happy couples, all using the joyful occasion to reflect on their own courtships and marriages.  Hhhmmm….what could I contribute to this conversation?  As I sat in silence, my insecurities began to get the best of me.  After about an hour’s worth of misery, the time came for friends and…