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What Mama Needs

“Mama, you need to read your Bible more!”  

Her words were fired at me like a cannonball, and their impact stopped me in my tracks.  I felt like a cooler of ice water had been poured over my head, successfully dousing the fury towards my preschooler.

“Mama, you need to read your Bible more!”  

Her words were fired at me like a cannonball, and their impact stopped me in my tracks.  I felt like a cooler of ice water had been poured over my head, successfully dousing the fury towards my preschooler.

I bit back the retort, “You don’t have a clue how much I’d like that!”  Her words hit their mark, but they also echoed the cry of my own heart.  Not a check-off for daily quiet time, though the Pharisee in me can reduce it to that.  But real soul connection in time spent with God.

It had been a long day.  A long week.  Make that a long few months.  Transition, grief, and maybe a little end-of-the-school-year-madness were all engulfing me.

My soul cried out for rest.  Vacation time?  You bet.  But this year it’s more like “stay-cation.”  All I really want is… solitude.  Rest.  To eat a meal without cutting someone else’s pizza into bite-sized pieces.  

Being a mother of little ones sometimes tests my limits physically, emotionally, and certainly spiritually.  I’ve found that last one to be a crucial guard for my own well-being, as well as my family’s.

My daughter’s words pierced my ears like a ref’s whistle and echoed throughout the day. Time OUT.  Mama needs a Time Out.  Time to be re-centered.  Time to take in words of life that will sustain me throughout the day.

What keeps me from that time?  Often, it’s the tyranny of the urgent.  Or even good, daily necessities like breakfast, housekeeping, and refereeing.

But let’s just say that when your four-year-old perceives that you’re a nicer mommy when you’ve spent some time with Jesus, well….  She’s not only keenly observant; she’s on to something.

It’s easy to get caught up in a whirlwind of good things—family time, work, church activities, friends.  And in the process, find yourself blown off course from the one relationship that will give life, peace, and joy.  

So I find myself with a heart recommitted to daily cleaning.  No, not the dishes.  Or washing clothes.  But rather heart-cleaning.  Making time to listen and understand Jesus’ words (Matthew 15:10-20).  At least then, if somebody eats their peanut butter and jelly sandwich without washing their hands, we’ll all come closer to understand that true cleanness comes from washing with the Living Water.  Hopefully, we’ll be nicer to each other.  That’s my prayer: to love each other well.

It starts with thanking God for the rest He provides.  This week, while my little ones are “camping” with their grandparents, I get some precious time for recharging.  Yes, I’m reading my Bible more.  And everybody’s happy, especially me.

Kelly Arabie

Kelly Arabie most enjoys heart-level conversation and guiding women in soul care. Her desire to study God’s Word and help women apply it to their lives led her and husband Tre to Dallas from their home in Louisiana. She earned a Master of Arts in Christian Education from Dallas Theological Seminary and served on staff as both Women’s Ministry Director for Coppell Bible Fellowship and Women’s Ministry Counselor at Insight for Living. Kelly’s experiences of shepherding by godly women have given her a deep desire to see women cared for in the Body of Christ worldwide, especially in cross-generation relationships.

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    Jerry Lawrence

    Great Reminder!

    Hey Kelly! Loved your blog. It's a good reminder to all of us that we need to rest before the Lord. It's those times with Him that give us strength for the day. Thanks!

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      Kelly Arabie

      thank you

      Thanks, Jerry.  Great to "see" you again, and I so appreciate your encouragement!

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    Jessica Witty

    Oh, Kelly… I think Eli

    Oh, Kelly… I think Eli would say the same thing to me today. Changes need to be made around here…

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      Kelly Arabie

      Out of the mouth of babes

      Jess, I remind myself daily it's a season!  His power perfected in our weakness. 🙂