A white knight on a white horse, charming, courageous and smitten with you, an idealized man–that's what many young women dream about and expect to find–I did. But an idealized man can cause us to make poor choices. You might be thinking, "But shouldn't we set high standards?" Definitely. How do wise women navigate this tension?         My husband isn't the man I married, and I'm not the woman he married–thank goodness. He has become the godly man I'm proud to call my husband, but it's taken over 40 years of God working in his life while God has similarly been working in my life–and still is. A good man…