Leadership Lessons from a Family Pastor!

For those that don’t know, I serve as the Family Pastor for my local church.  It’s a great opportunity for anyone who loves the concept of the family like I do.  I oversee age groups from birth to Sr. High and I’m seeing overseeing marriage ministry as well.  I love that God has given this responsibility to me and I love the thought of what a Christ-Centered family looks like.


As the Family Pastor, I’ve already made some discoveries in leadership that I’ve been a bit eye opening and yet familiar.  I have learned a few lessons along the way and I have a feeling I’ll be learning more and more each day.  Here’s a list of a few of those lessons that I’ve come to know: 

  1. Family Ministry is always being attacked – Satan is scared of the family and will do anything to destroy it:  This could be said about many things but let me tell you…if the evil one had his way, there wouldn't be any families on this planet, just lost individuals with no purpose or hope.  Family ministry poses a huge threat to Satan, so he’s always attacking it. 
  1. Leading Preschool & Elementary Leaders is much different than leading Youth Leaders – some of you are snickering right about now.  The truth is, this is like two different worlds that exist under the same universe.  As a result, it takes a complete change in mindset, emotion, inspection and follow up to manage each group.  It’s been very interesting so far! 
  1. Marriage Ministry is the hidden jewel in Family Ministry – When we strengthen the marriage then we strengthen the whole family.  It’s like the core of the whole thing! Marriage is the one thing that Satan has made headway in his fight to wreck the planet.  A strong marriage ministry is like antidote to his poison.  
  1. Kids are different now a days but they are still kids – Even though we hear a lot about how different kids are in this decade, the truth is…Yes they are!  But are they so different that they can’t be told the truth of the Gospel – NO! They can grasp it like all the kids before them.  Much is different yet much is the same! 

I have more but I thought for time sake I would stop there.  In any case, there is so much learning to do.  I’m excited to see what the future holds and I’m sure that by the time I retire some day I will be able to write a book on all that I’ve learned.  I think I’ll title it “Leadership Lessons from a Family Pastor…what I wish I knew before I wrote this book”.  




Brian Holt was called into and served in children's ministry for over 20 years. Brian had the privilege to lead in children's ministries ranging from mega-church to plant church size. Brian changed roles in his church and now serves as the Care Pastor at Rock Creek Church in Prosper, Texas overseeing the Care and Support ministries of the church. Brian has been married to his lovely wife Amy for over 24 years and they have 5 amazing kids. Brian's passion is to see every man, woman and child fall in love with Jesus and become one of his devout followers, transforming their lives in the process to be more like Him everyday.


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  • Doug Simon

    Valued ministry Brian

    Your comments were right on the mark.  I have pastored 31 years in the Metroplex.  Much time was spent in counseling and ministering to family problems or marital problems.  Our homes are under attack and much prayer and compassion and education is needed to strengthen and fortify our homes.  We need to engage our families in learning how to honor Christ in all our relationships and the Church must reach out with loving compassion.