Preparing Their Hearts for the Changes to Come
We went to Japan as missionaries with a three year old and a one year old. After living there for two and half years we needed to raise more support. We put our stuff in storage, packed our suitcases, and said our goodbyes to a home our girls had come to love.
As we pulled out of the driveway, our youngest tearfully said, “But now we don’t have a home.” Before we could respond, our 5 year old put her arm around her sister and said, “Don’t you know this is not our real home? Heaven is!”
“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” – C.S. Lewis
“Change can come in many forms in our lives. It might come forcefully like a tidal wave, or creep along incrementally like a glacier. It might come in the form of devastating tragedy, difficult choices, broken relationships, or even new opportunities. But even though change is often difficult, many times it’s also for the best. Accomplishing anything great in life requires significant change that pushes us beyond our comfort zones.” by Keep Inspiring Me
Change comes to all of us. From birth we are changing, learning and growing. Having to deal with all those changes as well as moving can be overwhelming. Our society is more transient today than ever. When these kind of changes come, we will feel like a ship tossed on a raging ocean of emotions, doubts, and fears, unless we have an anchor for our soul and a safe harbor to sail into for a respite from the storm. Jesus is that safe place for all of us.
Our children are TCKs (Third Culture Kids). In a family that comes from one culture which they had just begun to learn and accept as normal, they moved to another country and learned that culture too. In many ways both countries feel like home and yet in both they look, speak, or feel very differently from the people they see around them.
TCKs develop a third culture for themselves, a blend of the two. It helps them to cope, survive, and many times even thrive. Like all remedies it has side effects. Without help they will be on an endless treadmill of meeting others’ expectations in their search for their true identity
Many of the children in our classrooms are TCKS. They are adopted from other countries, have parents with different ethnicities, or come to live here from abroad. As teachers we have a mandate to teach them truth. “Do not be conformed to this present world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may test and approve what is the will of God – what is good and well-pleasing and perfect.” Romans 12:2 (The Net Bible) Every child needs to know their true identity is found in Christ. This will teach them to choose God’s ways over the evils in the cultures where they live.