Six Ways to Grow in Unity

I’ve been disturbed by the trend to disagree without unity within the body of Christ, not only in this putrid political climate but also within churches. Belittling Christians who don’t agree with us or treating them as enemies is undermining our unity, which Jesus clearly identified as the way the world would see the reality of who he is (John 17:20-23). So it’s no small thing!

We are divided by our backgrounds, life experiences, the biases of the teaching and preaching that we hear, and the people we hang with. (And yes, we all have biases because of pride and the preconceived ideas that we fail to recognize.)

Is it possible to disagree on issues, church decisions, and politics and yet be united?

I believe that it is. We see Paul and Barnabas choose to go their separate ways as missionaries because they disagreed sharply; yet there is no suggestion that they failed to support one another’s work (Acts 15:36-41). Churches today that cooperate with other churches that differ culturally and on non-essential doctrines mirror unity. It is exemplified by church members who prayerfully ask questions about decisions and truthfully speak to power while loving and believing the best about the leader's heart.

Suggestions to grow unity

  • Study the issues and ask questions to understand instead of arguing. (For example, watch the BOW video of Susie Hawkins discussing the racial divide. She had a big influence on my attempts to do this.)
  • Reach out to people unlike yourself to ask them about issues instead of assuming they agree with you or avoiding touchy subjects. My husband and I recently partnered with an African American couple to host a conversation about race in our home with other friends of both races.
  • Ask God to uncover your biases and preconceptions. I've found them hard to face, but necessary.
  • Spend a lot of time in the Scriptures to know Jesus and his heart so that you react and treat others as God would. I’ve changed a number of stands on various issues after prayerfully trying to recognize God's perspective.
  • Lose the belief that you can ever know what others have experienced, even when you’ve had a similar experience. Acknowledge to them that you do not know and never will. Don’t assume they have the ability to make the same choices or get the same outcome.
  • Speak truth in love when confronted with sin and falsehood (Eph. 4:25; Col. 3:14-17). Ignoring them doesn't bring peace and unity. When I have spoken up kindly, it wasn’t always appreciated, but obeying God leaves the results with him.

Our loyalty is to God and his kingdom message above all else. The strength of our voices depends on how well we show Jesus to the world in real life. When that picture is distorted by rancor and partisanship wherever they arise, we lose the right to speak into the culture that sees hypocrites not the love of Christ. Let’s quit attacking each other and grow in unity.

God’s kingdom message to our world depends on it.

This article was originally posted on July 20, 2017 on "The Aroma of Influence."

Kay is a life-long Texan whose favorites are Tex-Mex, books that feed her soul or make her think, good movies and travel to new places. Her great joy is to serve God by teaching the Bible and developing women as servant-leaders. She is the Founder and Executive Director of Beyond Ordinary Women Ministries, which provides free videos, podcasts and articles as well as low-cost Bible studies to prepare Christian women for leadership. (beyondordinarywomen.org) Kay spent ten years leading women’s ministries on church staffs, most recently at Northwest Bible Church in Dallas. Kay is the author of From Ordinary Woman to Spiritual Leader: Grow your Influence, a practical guide to help Christian women influence others by applying foundational leadership skills to their lives and ministries, and a number of Bible studies for women, some are available at bible.org and the newer ones are found at beyondordinarywomen.org. Kay earned an M.A.C.E. from Dallas Theological Seminary and a D.Min. from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary in Effective Ministries to Women. Kay’s family includes a husband, two grown children, one son-in-law, two hysterical granddaughters and a Goldendoodle.