I want everyone to feel valued, especially kids, and nothing makes a kid feel more valued that receiving a nice shiny trophy.  Win or lose…show up or just signed up… everyone gets a trophy no matter how they played or whether they even tried; but, everyone is happy so that’s good, right? Looking from the perspective of the kid, there doesn’t seem to be any harm. But, what if we are wrong. What if we are sending the message that it’s ok to not do well thus creating the mindset that EVERYTHING is acceptable and praiseworthy and good.  And what if by having that mindset we are unknowingly conditioning people…