A lot of women, women like me, have come to a full stop when reading in 1 Peter 3:3-4, where he challenges us: “Your beauty should not consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothes. Instead, it should consist of what is inside the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very valuable in God’s eyes.” A gentle and quiet spirit? Uh-oh. Some of us have thought, “Oh man. I’m sunk. Is that what it means to be a godly woman? Gentle and quiet?” Others have wondered, “But God! You made me with a big, loud…