Rejection is an act of throwing away or discarding someone or something. This innately implies a lack of value. We begin to feel that we have no value as we experience an overwhelming sense of worthlessness, of being swept aside. Perhaps most significantly, rejection is the act of being denied love. We feel unwanted and unwelcome!
Hurt people, hurt people, and are easily hurt by other people. That is, the more rejection built up in your life, the easier it is to be hurt by others. Like a wounded pet that bites the owner that is trying to render aid – we hurt others. Hurt people misinterpret the motives of those around them. They can easily default to the worst motive in every situation.
When thoughts of rejection consume us, we have difficulty receiving the love of God. We might receive His love intellectually but find it awkward to emotionally experience it. This also becomes true when others try to express their love to us. We resist their affections in proportion to the degree of rejection built up in our lives. We can become paranoid – inventing a hurtful motive in every encounter (2).
The Two Kingdoms (1)
1. God’s Kingdom is one of love, unconditional acceptance, and forgiveness. He offers us mercy and grace without limit.
2. Satan’s Kingdom is one where there is no love, joy, peace, acceptance, or forgiveness. There is only condemnation, rejection, disillusionment, destruction, division, and despair. Satan’s goal is to steal our love of God.
Satan’s Vision Statement
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; (John 10:10 a NET)
The thief's (Satan’s) purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. (John 10:10 a NLT)
- Steal – to stealthily, imperceptibly, remove our love, joy, and peace in Christ
- Kill – to remove the true purpose of our lives by seducing us into chasing worthless endeavors.
- Destroy – to ruin our life’s work so that looking back, we see a worthless heap of rubble.
God’s Vision Statement
...I have come so that they may have life, and may have it abundantly. (John 10:10 b NET)
My [God’s] purpose is to give life in all its fullness. (John 10:10 b NLT)
The Greek word here is “zoe” not “bios”. Bios is the biological life we live on Earth, whereas “zoe” is the life of God in Heaven! Jesus came to fully give us the God kind of life of Heaven – while we are still on Earth! Remember, if God takes away, it is only to add more (i.e., He prunes us, John 15:2).
He takes away every branch that does not bear fruit in me. He prunes every branch that bears fruit so that it will bear more fruit. (John 15:2 NET)
Satan knows it is hard to get us Christians to deny our Lord or to give up our faith directly. Consequently, he takes a roundabout method of tricking us into rejecting the love of God. The goal is to make us impotent and ineffective, like salt with no flavor (1):
"Salt is good for seasoning. But if it loses its flavor, how do you make it salty again? Flavorless salt is good neither for the soil nor for fertilizer. It is thrown away. Anyone who is willing to hear should listen and understand!" (Luke 14:34,35 NLT)
For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision carries any weight—the only thing that matters is faith working through love. (Galatians 5:6 NET)
Satan wants us to reject the love of God. Without love, faith will not work (Galatians 5:6 b faith which worketh by love). Those full of rejection are so worried about what others think of them (self-centered) that they cannot function in faith. Again, Satan uses hurts to remove the love of God and the love of others from our lives and substitutes rejection.
Rejection to What End?
Without great love, we will not have great faith. Like a python suffocating its prey, over time and enough incidents of rejection, Satan slowly steals the love of God and the love of others from our hearts. Again, with little love, we have little faith:
And if I had the gift of faith so that I could speak to a mountain and make it move, without love I would be no good to anybody. (1 Corinthians 13:2 c NLT)
The Goal of Rejection
We end up a people full of rejection. We no longer experience the joy of serving Him and the peace of His presence. Splits and divisions increase. The church becomes anemic and ineffective. We become faithless people. We are useless, unseasoned salt! Without love, fear abounds:
There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears punishment has not been perfected in love. We love because he loved us first. (1 John 4:18,19 NET)
The Stronghold of Rejection
Satan works to build a castle or stronghold called Rejection in our minds and hearts, which includes four surrounding walls. These are not physical walls but rather emotional walls. To access and evict Rejection, we must tear down the surrounding walls. Realize Satan works through deception. He counts on our buying into his deception, rejecting God’s truth, and embracing a lie.
Razing the Stronghold
We must repent of those instances where we have given in to Rejection and failed to trust God (3). We must renounce every place of agreement with Satan’s lies. We must destroy the yoke of bondage to which we have been submitted:
And it shall come to pass in that day, that his burden shall be taken away from off thy shoulder, and his yoke from off thy neck, and the yoke shall be destroyed because of the anointing. (Isaiah 10:27 KJV)
"The Spirit of the LORD is upon Me, Because He has anointed Me To preach the gospel to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to the captives And recovery of sight to the blind, To set at liberty those who are oppressed; To proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD." (Luke 4:18,19 NKJ)
with respect to Jesus from Nazareth, that God anointed him with the Holy Spirit and with power. He went around doing good and healing all who were oppressed by the devil, because God was with him. (Acts 10:38 NET)
The ministry of Jesus continues on Earth today by the Holy Spirit of God – the one that broke bondage through Jesus:
NKJ Matthew 12:28 "But if I cast out demons by the Spirit of God, surely the kingdom of God has come upon you. (Matthew 12:28 NKJ)
He is ready to free us today!
For he says, “I heard you at the acceptable time, and in the day of salvation I helped you.” Look, now is the acceptable time; look, now is the day of salvation! (2 Corinthians 6:2 NET)
Therefore, as the Holy Spirit says, “Oh, that today you would listen as he speaks! (Hebrews 3:7 NET)
The First Wall
The outer wall is the “Rejection of God.” Without this wall, no other walls can be built. If it goes up, the others will surely follow. How, as Christians, do we reject God? We reject His Word (Truth), His ways, His character, and His love. We become impatient with God, questioning His loving providence, and we take matters into our own hands, thus rejecting Him even as Adam and Eve did in the Garden of Eden (1) (Genesis 3:1-7).
Razing the Rejection of God
Father, I repent of rejecting You and Your Word. Forgive me, Lord, for not believing that You Love and accept me. I repent of taking things into my own hands. I repent of my pride, stubbornness, self-will, and rebellion. I first bind the strongman of rejection from interfering with the removal of the outer walls of his stronghold in the Lord Jesus’s name. I renounce and cast away all rejection of God and the spirit behind it. I refuse to accept its influence in my life any longer. I break every word and all agreements I have made with the spirit of rejection of God. I break all connections and generational influences that have to do with the spirit of rejection of God. And now, because of what Jesus has done on the cross and the authority He has given me, I come against the wall of rejection of God and break it down in the Lord Jesus’ Name!
The Second Wall
The second wall is the “Fear of Rejection.” Cut off from the love of God, fear enters to fill the void. We begin to distrust God and others. We sabotage relationships to prevent others from getting too close. Effectively, we reject others before they can reject us! We use this irrational strategy with the goal of never being hurt again.
Razing the Fear of Rejection
Father, I repent of deception, lying, suspicion, mistrust, control, and manipulation. I repent of trying to please people instead of seeking to please You. I renounce the spirit behind the fear of rejection. I reject its lies. I break all words or agreements with the fear of rejection. I break all connections and generational influences with the fear of rejection. Fear of rejection, in the Authority of the Name of the Lord Jesus, by the Blood of God who became flesh, by the Cross that bore this my curse away, and by the Spirit of Holiness who raised Jesus Christ from the Dead, I come against you and break down your wall! (Philippians 2:8-10. Hebrews 2:14,15. 1 John 4:2. Galatians 3:13. Romans 8:11. Matthew 16:19. John 10:10)
The Third Wall
The third wall is “Self Rejection.” Some were born into families that did not want them or their particular gender. Others do not have the physical build, good looks, intelligence, or sporting ability of others, leading to rejection by them. Since our parents or others do not want us, we slip into the trap of believing that we should not be here at all (i.e., self-rejection). Not to accept the person we are and to dislike, or even hate, the personality He gave us is to imply that God made a mistake when making us, which is a sin.
Father, I repent of rejecting myself. I repent of hating Your creation. I repent of resisting Your plan for my life. I repent of trying to be someone I was never meant to be. I repent of always needing the approval of others. I choose to accept Your love for me and what I am meant to be. Spirit of self-rejection, I renounce you. I break your power. I break your authority. I break every curse and vow that has given you permission to operate in my life. I choose to accept God’s Word, God’s love, and God’s ways for my life. I break the wall of self-rejection off my life now in the Authority of the Name of the Lord Jesus, by the Blood of God who became flesh, by the Cross that bore this my curse away, and by the Spirit of Holiness who raised Jesus Christ from the Dead!
The Fourth Wall
The fourth wall is the “Rejection of Others.” When we do not accept personal responsibility for our own actions, we look for opportunities to blame others. We begin to look for someone else or something to blame for unmet expectations. This rejection is rooted in unforgiveness (1). We seek to punish those who have hurt us by rejecting them. However, we only end up hurting ourselves.
Razing the Rejection of Others
Father, I repent of rejecting others. I repent for having been unforgiving, resentful, and bitter towards others. I repent for allowing the hurt that I received to move me to reject others before they could reject me. Spirit of rejection of others, I renounce you. I refuse to accept your influence in my life any longer. I choose to be a person of acceptance, not rejection. I break all words, agreements, and connections with you. I break all generational influences that would give strength to the rejection of others. I break the wall of rejection of others off my life now in the Authority of the Name of the Lord Jesus, by the Blood of God who became flesh, by the Cross that bore this my curse away, and by the Spirit of Holiness who raised Jesus Christ from the Dead!
The Strongman of Rejection
Hidden and protected by the four walls of the stronghold is the strongman of rejection. This is the spirit that causes us to turn in on ourselves and lose heart and hope. When we embrace the spirit of rejection, we have difficulty being able to fully receive the love of God. Worship becomes an effort and intimacy with God next to impossible. Feeling worthless makes any attempt at affection seem unreal.
Now, the spirit of rejection, your stronghold, has been dismantled; you have no protection. I come against you, and I reject you. Your defeat was accomplished at the cross of Jesus. I tell you that your rule in my life ends here, now. Because of the Spirit of God, who gives me power and authority, I command you to loose me from your hold. I command you to leave me now in the Lord Jesus’ name!
If you accept others as they are, they become more acceptable, and if you reject them, they become more objectionable. We must learn to accept others who hurt us unconditionally but reject the sin involved in their behavior. We do not have to condone behavior that is totally unacceptable, but we must act in a loving way toward them despite their behavior. We must understand that we are unique to God and that no one else can be us. God treasures us, and we cannot be replaced!
God had you in mind before your parents even met!
NAU Jeremiah 1:5 a "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,
NAU Job 31:15 "Did not He who made me in the womb make him, And the same one fashion us in the womb?
NAU Genesis 1:26,27 Then God said, "Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the cattle and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth." 27 God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.
God planned for you before you were born!
And before you were born I consecrated you; I have appointed you a prophet to the nations." (Jeremiah 1:5 b NAU) [Jeremiah the Prophet]
But when God, who had set me apart even from my mother's womb and called me through His grace, was pleased 16a to reveal His Son in me so that I might preach Him among the Gentiles (Galatians 1:15,16 NAU) [Paul the Apostle]
For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother's womb. 14 I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well. 15 My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; 16 Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them. (Psalm 139:13-16 NAU)
God has beautiful plans for your future from now on!
'For I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope. NAU Jeremiah 29:11
just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. In love He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will, (Ephesians 1:4,5 NAU)
But God, being rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, 5 even when we were dead in our transgressions, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved), 6 and raised us up with Him, and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, 7 so that in the ages to come He might show the surpassing riches of His grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. Ephesians 2:4-7 NAU)
Prayer of Thanksgiving
I am special. God created me for Himself, and I thank Him for the spirit, soul, and body that He gave me. I accept them as gifts from God and repent for my overall wrong attitude towards them. I unconditionally forgive (1) every person who has thought, said, or done things to or about me that have made me want to reject myself. I dedicate my life afresh to the One who made me, and I rejoice in His goodness!
Overcoming Rejection Series:
- Rejection – Satan’s First Strategy for Your Destruction – Part I
- Rejection – Satan’s First Strategy for Your Destruction – Part II
- Rejection – Satan’s First Strategy for Your Destruction – Part III
(Security, Wholeness, Success)
Dear friend, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, just as it is well with your soul. (3 John 1:2 NET)
(1) Select the link to open another article in a new tab with additional information.
(2) Blog adapted from:
- End of Rejection: Your Past Is Not Your Future by Chris Hayward, ISBN-13: 9780800796822
- How to Minister Freedom by Doris Wagner, ISBN-13: 978-0800797508
- Healing through Deliverance by Peter Horrobin, ISBN-13: 978-0800794514
- Sexual Healing by David Foster, ISBN-10: 0830737340
(3) First, we must be born again before following these steps. If you are unsure if you are born again, click here (1).