Yes, the play on the phrase “Jesus and the woman caught in adultery” was intentional. So, how are we to act towards those that relate to us who have same-sex attraction? I am glad you asked!
What did Jesus do when the woman caught in the act of adultery was presented before Him? Realize, this is an account of opposite-sex attraction that was acted upon.
But Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. Early in the morning he came to the temple courts again. All the people came to him, and he sat down and began to teach them. The experts in the law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught committing adultery. They made her stand in front of them and said to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman was caught in the very act of adultery. In the law Moses commanded us to stone to death such women. What then do you say?" (Now they were asking this in an attempt to trap him, so that they could bring charges against him.) Jesus bent down and wrote on the ground with his finger. When they persisted in asking him, he stood up straight and replied, "Whoever among you is guiltless may be the first to throw a stone at her." Then he bent over again and wrote on the ground. Now when they heard this, they began to drift away one at a time, starting with the older ones, until Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. Jesus stood up straight and said to her, "Woman, where are they? Did no one condemn you?" She replied, "No one, Lord." And Jesus said, "I do not condemn you either. Go, and from now on do not sin any more."] (John. 8:1-11 NET)
Jesus welcomed without judgment, accepted without condition, and forgave without limit. I believe Jesus would do the same for same-sex attraction as He did for this case of opposite-sex attraction (Psalms 103:13,14. Romans 2:4).
Now all the tax collectors and sinners were coming to hear him. But the Pharisees and the experts in the law were complaining, "This man welcomes sinners and eats with them." So Jesus told them this parable: "Which one of you, if he has a hundred sheep and loses one of them, would not leave the ninety-nine in the open pasture and go look for the one that is lost until he finds it? Then when he has found it, he places it on his shoulders, rejoicing. Returning home, he calls together his friends and neighbors, telling them, 'Rejoice with me, because I have found my sheep that was lost.' I tell you, in the same way there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous people who have no need to repent. (Luke 15:1-7 NET)
Jesus demonstrated that we are to communicate, through our words and actions, that we would rather have this version of you in our life than to not have you in it at all. We are to welcome without judgment, accept without condition, and forgive others without limit, including to repent (1) and receive forgiveness (1) for ourselves without limit.
And have mercy on those who waver; save others by snatching them out of the fire; have mercy on others, coupled with a fear of God, hating even the clothes stained by the flesh. (Jude 1:22–23 NET)
That is, love the sinner while hating the sin. This is Grace giving mercy (1) in compassion!
She replied, "No one, Lord." And Jesus said, "I do not condemn you either. Go, and from now on do not sin any more."] (John. 8:11 NET)
Jesus said to him, “Stand up! Pick up your mat and walk.” Immediately the man was healed, and he picked up his mat and started walking. (Now that day was a Sabbath.) So the Jewish leaders said to the man who had been healed, “It is the Sabbath, and you are not permitted to carry your mat.”But he answered them, “The man who made me well said to me, ‘Pick up your mat and walk.’ ” They asked him, “Who is the man who said to you, ‘Pick up your mat and walk’?”But the man who had been healed did not know who it was, for Jesus had slipped out, since there was a crowd in that place. After this Jesus found him at the temple and said to him, "Look, you have become well. Don't sin any more, lest anything worse happen to you." (John 5:8-14 NET)
Nevertheless, Jesus, full of grace and truth, called sin, sin. That is, He did not tolerate, accept, affirm, or participate in sin. This included sexual sins (1). Why not? I am glad you asked! Because those actions would not deliver those caught in sin from sin’s effects of stealing, killing, and destroying their lives.
For the law was given through Moses, but grace and truth (1) came about through Jesus Christ. (John 1:17 NET)
Realize, the Bible is very clear that being tempted is not a sin but rather we sin when we chose to continually think about the sin. If we continue to think about the temptation, then we will ultimately follow through and commit sin. (2)
What does a happily married person do when tempted sexually by someone of the opposite sex? They resist that temptation! Why? Because they have made a covenant with their wives before a Holy God that they will not have any other female as their partner in life (including sex partner) until death do they part. Realize, sex is only permitted within the confines of marriage, and marriage is defined as between one male and one female in the Bible.
What about a single person tempted sexually by someone of the opposite sex? Resist the temptation! Why? Because sex is only permitted within the confines of marriage and marriage is defined as between one male and one female in the Bible.
What should a person who is attracted sexually to the same sex do? Resist the temptation! Why? Because sex (1) is only permitted within the confines of marriage and marriage is defined as between one male and one female in the Bible. (Matthew 19:4-6, Genesis 2:24)
Yes, that was the same answer in all three scenarios. Simple answer, yet hard to live out! Yes, it can be an arduous struggle resisting an addiction, but freedom from that cycle of death is well worth the effort. Simple yet hard. Die to live, decrease to increase, and give up to gain. Such are the ways of the Kingdom of God. Such is life walking in the Spirit. (2)
Discipleship for Wounded Christians
- The Lord is My Shomer
- God, You do not seem big enough for all my problems!
- Evil is Triumphing over Good, God Will You Do Nothing?
- How to Suffer Effectively
- Fear-free Courage?
- How to Handle Unfair Trials from Leadership
- Kept in Jesus’ Name!
- Religious Folklore – Children are Held Accountable for the Sins of their Parents
- Religious Folklore – The Christian Life is one of Receiving Forgiveness for but not Victory over Habitual Sins
- Sex Sans Sin (SSS)
- Licensed to Kill
- Jesus and the Male Caught (Up) in Same-Sex Attraction
- Lay Me to Rest with Leah the Lovely!
(Security, Wholeness, Success)
Dear friend, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, just as it is well with your soul. (3 John 1:2 NET)
(1) Select the link to open another article in a new tab with additional information.
(2) The following links cover how to resist temptation in detail:
ABCs of Overcoming Temptation series:
- The ABCs of Sinless Christian Living
- ABCs Part I: Avert Your Senses!
- ABCs Part II: Battle Lustful Thoughts
- ABCs Part III: Cling to Christ
- ABCs Part IV: S.W.A.T
The Book of Job Series:
- Job, Suffering is Part of the Job
- Job, God Planned a Happy Ending from the Beginning!
- Job, God is not Your Problem… Satan is!
- Job, God is Your Solution!
- Job, With Friends Like These Who Needs Enemies?
- Job, Do not Despise the Wisdom of the Youth!
- Job, Brokenness is the only Way to Godliness
Discover Prayer Series:
- We Must Ask
- Seek Only Our Heavenly Father’s Glory
- Pray the Promise, Not Just the Problem
- Pray in Faith
- Live a Lifestyle of Unconditionally Loving Others
- Have an Attitude of Gratitude
- Be Persistent
- Power Dressing for Prayer
- The Lord’s Prayer: The Outline for Prayer Given to Us by Jesus
The Five Phases of Spiritual Growth Series:
- Have You Got Your Big Boy Pants On?
- Is Your Engine Running?
- God’s Rock Tumbler
- God’s Tractor Pull
- A License to Learn